Author Trevor Holmes

An objective view of your life

It was Albert Einstein who said

“If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”

Even though this statement was referring to a scientific solution, the same can be applied to our lives.

When was the last time you asked yourself a really good question? When was the last time you stepped back and looked objectively at your life and started asking yourself constructive questions (as opposed to “why me”)?

Questions like this:

  • How did I get to where I am today, and what could I have done differently?
  • What knowledge have I gained from my life to date that I can take with me into future situations?
  • What areas of my life am I merely giving in to that I need to start affecting more positively?

Principle of Cause and Effect

There is a principle we teach in NLP called cause and effect. The majority of the world live in this place called “effect” – another way to describe it is living by default, being a victim, floating through life and allowing everything just to happen to you. This is a place of frustration, helplessness and will often result in you feeling ‘stuck’.

When you begin to ask good questions about how and why your life could or should be different, you start to transition over to the place of cause. This place is where you understand that it is within your power and potential to start creating the life you want through the decisions you make. You begin to be mindful of how each day is unfolding and where you sit at various times and in various situation.

When you live at ‘cause’, despite circumstances, you are responsible for creating the reality of your life, and it’s up to you to find out how to do it. To the extent that you can become the primary cause of your life, then you can begin to manifest a life that is more the way that you would like it to be.

What can you do?

Take the time today to have a look at each circumstance of your life – your work, your relationships, your finances, your spirituality – each category that makes you who you are. Then ask these questions…

  • Where are you on the spectrum, from being at the effect of life, to being the primary cause in your life?
  • Where would you rather be?
  • What would motivate you to make the necessary changes?
  • How do you get from where you are to where you want to be?

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